Tuesday, 13 January 2015

Securities vs. Insecurities

After seeing this post on Aymie's Blog a little while ago, I was really inspired to write something similar of my own, so today I've decided to talk about what I do and don't like about myself.
I think in society, we're encouraged to be secure in ourselves and to love ourselves, yet if we ever said we did not have any insecurities, we would be seen as cocky and arrogant, so you just can't win really! At the end of the day, there's always going to be something that we dislike about ourselves but I prefer to look at them as something to improve on, rather than something to get down about. At the end of the day, we are the ones living in our own bodies, so it is our opinions that matter more than anyone else's.

My Stomach - This is probably the area where my confidence fluctuates the most. I have a fairly small frame so it means that as soon as I lose any weight at all, it's really noticeable in my stomach and I can even work my way towards getting abs and having striations in my obliques, but it also means that I can lose all that hard work with one large pizza from Dominos! However at the end of the day, I used to be a lot bigger than I am now and even on a 'fat day', I'm still so much slimmer than I ever thought I would be if you'd asked me age 13, so I'm very grateful for it!

My Arms - When I lost most of my 'puppy fat' in my early teens, I managed to lose it everywhere in my body except for my arms, and no matter how hard I try, I cannot slim them down! It makes me feel really self-conscious in pictures, because they're always very noticeable and I've yet to figure out a flattering angle for them - if one even exists! However, that does mean that I can bulk on them easily in the gym and when I stick to my routine, I get shoulder/bicep/tricep definition really easily, which makes me feel better about them. They may not be getting any smaller, but at least they are toned.

My Legs - Doesn't every teenage girl have a love/hate relationship with their legs? I love the fact that they enable me to walk around, but I hate the way that they look sometimes! My thighs are quite weirdly shaped as I have a lot of muscle in them which is quite prominent, so it looks like I have a weird strip of fat on them and they can look quite chunky when I'm wearing jeans, which is upsetting. My calves, however, are one of my favourite things about myself. Possibly because one of my exes was really into fitness and it really wound him up that my calves weren't much smaller than his and super muscular, but shhh. In general, I like the way my legs when they're not in clothes but obviously that's not really an excuse not to wear any trousers!

My Boobs - I think my boobs are probably the only insecurity that I can't spin into more of a positive light. I am very ehem 'lacking' in this department and it's always been a real issue that I've had with my body, since I think it leaves me looking like a pre-pubescent boy (which is also something someone genuinely said to me in an argument once, so that confirmed my belief!) and make me feel a lot less womanly than I should do at nearly 18. However, it does mean that I don't have to worry about those 'Big Boob Problems' that have Twitter accounts dedicated to them, and I'll admit, I've even managed to go a few days at school without wearing a bra before so I guess that's a plus!

My Hair - My hair used to be my biggest security, in that I could hide behind it and since it was long and blonde and pretty generic, most people liked it! However since I stopped being able to dye it due to my hair dye allergy, and I cut it off so it's much shorter now, I can't really do that anymore! I still like my hair now, but I feel like I'll like it a lot more once it grows to be a bit longer again, so that I can get back into doing plaits in it and it will get some of its natural wave back, as it's gotten a lot more straight since its been short.

I could probably go on but this post could get really boring, so I'll just leave it there. I always like to outweigh the bad things in life with the good, as I am fortunate enough to be living a life where I am surrounded by so, so many good things and it's by doing things like this that help to remind me of that!


  1. I think this post is amazing! Its nice to know that there is no such thing as 'perfect' and everyone has their own insecurities.

    1. Thank you! I feel like it's important to remember that everyone will always have their insecurities, but you can still stay positive about them! x

  2. Amazing post! I'm pretty sure if you asked anyone else they would say you're perfect:) x
    Eva x


    1. Thank you! They would be very silly to say so - no one is perfect! It's just about being happy with yourself :) x

  3. Oh my goodness how amazing is it that you posted this? You're such an inspiration! And I totally understand where you're coming from with most of these. I both hate and love my legs at the same time! I think what I am most insecure about is probably my nose... >>

    Anyway, I love you for this post! //Cloudy Dreams

    1. Haha I don't think it's that amazing but thank you for being so lovely! I think it's important to remember that everyone you meet in life will have their own insecurities, but there's also nothing wrong with having securities either! x


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